Thursday, January 3, 2013

The After Math

Written for other moms that have loss a baby...

No one journey is the same. We can grieve together but no one will ever know each other's exact pain. Mothers of similar losses can chat and have similarities, but still wonder what to say to each other. Even for people who are able to talk about "it", no one could completely understand from one journey to another.

I thankfully haven't dealt with depression, but know some who is from a loss of a child. And as I have said in the past to her, that I was thinking and praying for her, I truly will never know her journey. But I'm thankful to know that she has a relationship with the Lord. He will keep fighting for her.

Today, in the land of online FB support groups, I found out that an anencephaly mom couldn't fight off her depression after about a month in a half after her baby went to Heaven. Something probably stronger than postpartum. She was starting to seek help, as she had spoken about it. At that time, I wasn't actively reading the comments on the board. She leaves behind a husband and son. And after word got around, many questions started to some out.

Are our babies in Heaven? What happens on "the other side"? Why she couldn't fight harder? If believers could give an answer to whether this mom was in Heaven? Was suicide a sin? 

People are seeking.What does this life mean? Why are we here? Where do we go after we die? People are seeking answers. And some people are giving answers, but are they right? Who is right? Some answers lead the wrong direction.

Maybe we aren't supposed to have all the answers.

The one and only answer we need is God/Jesus Christ.

To have the faith that He will overcome anything and everything that is put before us. He is seeking a relationship with you.

I blog about having faith here.  Another great book to read other than the Bible, is One Heartbeat Away. Which you can get free on this website, scroll down to the bottom to find the book. Another great resource is

I didn't go to Theology school and don't claim to have all the answers, and I do seek some answers as well, but I do so in the Bible. And as our babies have a purpose for their short lives, so we have a purpose for ours.

This would be a good time to go to the SONGS link on right column.  And let God lead you as your listen.

I leave you with some scripture...

Job 1

God given strength in the depths of depression:

Psalms 40:1-3 I waited patiently for the LORD; he inclined to me and heard my cry. He drew me up from the pit of destruction, out of the miry bog, and set my feet upon a rock, making my steps secure. He put a new song in my mouth, a song of praise to our God. Many will see and fear, and put their trust in the LORD.

Psalms 42:11 Why are you cast down, O my soul, and why are you in turmoil within me? Hope in God; for I shall again praise him, my salvation and my God.

Jeremiah 29:11  For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. [Not only for our children but also ourselves]

2 Corinthians 1:3-4 Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.

1 Corinthians 10:13 - God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it. God absolutely promises that there is no such thing as a problem in this life that is beyond our ability to endure.

Philippians 4:13 - I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

James 5:10,11 - When we are suffering, we need to remember the example of men of God who suffered: Jesus, Paul, especially Job.

James 1:2-4  Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

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